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10 December 2015

The Frying Pan Of Life

By Evan Sanders


Sizzle.

Can you hear it? I'm about to tell you what's cooking.

If you took the time to ask 100 different people what their main goal in life was, you would probably get a mass majority giving you an answer relating to happiness.

But if you dove further into that question, things would start to get more opaque. What really is happiness? How do you get it? How do you live a happy life?

No one really knows. But they do know this - when you are happy you are just happy.

When we are happy we are just happy. But when we are suffering in any way, we try to fix it, change it, manipulate it and get it as far away as possible. We try to rid ourselves from these bad feelings quickly in order to hopefully get back to happiness, but that never really works.

There's significant danger in this type of behavior because if you create a false ladder of ascension, you will always come across life's wondrous way of ripping the rug out from beneath you at the most inconvenient time. When that happens, you will try to take a step back on the ladder rung below only to find that it isn't there.

Where are you headed? Like a rock to the bottom.

Bang. Knocked out. In pain. Life is miserable.

So how can you avoid this becoming a reality?

Allow for there to be some chaos and madness in your life. Allow for some of the unexpected to come about and head into the dark parts of your heart where you know you are storing neglected emotions, thoughts, and experiences. Get close to the "frying pan." Get close enough to those dark places to feel them and experience them but stay far enough away so you don't get completely overwhelmed. When you can heal yourself in this manner you end up actually dealing with what your heart has been asking you to deal with all along.

Going through this process will really allow you to heal.

Chaos and a little craziness...those are good things. You want that energy flowing through you, and if you can harness it and create art with it, whatever that art may be, the possibilities are endless.

Many think that only good places create good feelings. Nevertheless, happiness, love, compassion, those all critical characteristics we want for ourselves, can come from the darkness, chaos, and a little bit of madness. We believe that darkness only implies darkness. But could there be the presence of light, joy, and positive emotions even in the roughest moments of our lives?

Be brave enough to do this.

So maybe we should not be searching for happiness in the first place. Maybe we should be on a journey to discover as much about ourselves as possible and come to the darker places with understanding and serious compassion.

Give it a shot. It could change everything.




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