So I hate to break it to you, but I've never actually hugged a porcupine.
But in this metaphor, I have.
So bear with me for a second.
Relationships are complicated.
Our friendships, romantic relationships, and even acquaintances can be complicated at times. People are naturally messy and life adds its own messiness to it many times. It's a miracle we can even get along in the first place.
Then, when you throw peoples emotions, past events, and egos into the equation as well it gets even more complicated.
But there's something really to be said about "being there" for people despite all of the complexities of life. There's something to be said for being someone's rock when everything seems to be falling apart around them.
We all need someone to put our back up against when times get tough. The reality is, we actually all really need that person in our life. We need someone to talk to, to express our deepest fears and our greatest wishes, our worries, doubts, fears, insecurities and everything else in between.
But that takes vulnerability and vulnerability is one of the scariest things in the world.
It takes breaking down those walls in front of someone else and being able to show them exactly who you are. You don't censor it. You don't hide parts. You just go...this is exactly who I am.
So what's the really beautiful part about this?
You give another person an opportunity to love you just the way you are.
You become imperfectly perfect to them and they love you to death for knowing all of those flaws you've so desperately tried to hide from the world.
We all, deep down, are thirsting for a love that seems to be harder and harder to come by these days.
So remember that when people are out there in the world really hurting, suffering, and facing challenges, they can be a bit prickly like a porcupine sometimes...
Hug them.
No matter what is going on in a persons life, let them know that they are loved and that they have support.
That's the good stuff. That's real love.
That's not asking someone to be anything but who they are.
That's how we all deserve to be loved.
That' what we deserve.
But in this metaphor, I have.
So bear with me for a second.
Relationships are complicated.
Our friendships, romantic relationships, and even acquaintances can be complicated at times. People are naturally messy and life adds its own messiness to it many times. It's a miracle we can even get along in the first place.
Then, when you throw peoples emotions, past events, and egos into the equation as well it gets even more complicated.
But there's something really to be said about "being there" for people despite all of the complexities of life. There's something to be said for being someone's rock when everything seems to be falling apart around them.
We all need someone to put our back up against when times get tough. The reality is, we actually all really need that person in our life. We need someone to talk to, to express our deepest fears and our greatest wishes, our worries, doubts, fears, insecurities and everything else in between.
But that takes vulnerability and vulnerability is one of the scariest things in the world.
It takes breaking down those walls in front of someone else and being able to show them exactly who you are. You don't censor it. You don't hide parts. You just go...this is exactly who I am.
So what's the really beautiful part about this?
You give another person an opportunity to love you just the way you are.
You become imperfectly perfect to them and they love you to death for knowing all of those flaws you've so desperately tried to hide from the world.
We all, deep down, are thirsting for a love that seems to be harder and harder to come by these days.
So remember that when people are out there in the world really hurting, suffering, and facing challenges, they can be a bit prickly like a porcupine sometimes...
Hug them.
No matter what is going on in a persons life, let them know that they are loved and that they have support.
That's the good stuff. That's real love.
That's not asking someone to be anything but who they are.
That's how we all deserve to be loved.
That' what we deserve.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into these great Kindness Quotes http://thewordsofencouragement.com/kindness-quotes/ or these Sympathy Quotes http://thewordsofencouragement.com/sympathy-quotes/ to get some motivation to move forward!
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