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01 June 2015

Life's Greatest Oracles: Strong Women

By Evan Sanders


There is nothing more beautiful, fantastic, and satisfying than being around ladies who have something awaken deep inside them - an excursion, a calling, an escapade. I've been pretty fortunate to have spent a lot of time with strong women - even raised by 2 who I would do just about anything for - women who have got their own dreams despite all of the crazy things they are fed psychologically by our society, battle anyways. They are entirely unique in a world that's trying it's best to coach them to be like everyone else. How amazing is that? Above all else, women act as moment by moment integrity checkers for men, oracles even, and if you can surround yourself with a bunch of powerful women, you may grow incredibly, have your head lovingly cut off when you are surely not being the best man you could be, and you may experience life itself and its gigantic array of experiences. Like the ocean they change and shift by the second, feelings and thoughts swarm...let that help you in finding your solidity. They are going to test you with their darkest moods and feelings - only to have them feel that you're immovable, the mountain, always going to be there regardless of what and firm in your purpose. These are gifts, not hinderances. These relationships create you, but if you really deflate - they'll destroy you. Seek them out - don't be threatened, women can move mountains. They are to seriously be treasured.

The dynamics of my life in moving with female energy has changed almost 180 degrees for lots of reasons. But oh how I have shifted inside. Throughout the course of my life, I highly identified with strong feminine energy because I had two amazing and awfully strong and powerful women in my life - my sister and my mother - who are very driven and talented in what they do. I even had a female dog who was my best friend when I was very little and really tended to gel with ladies better than I did with men. I took the best from my father too, almost equally as driven, thoughtful, creative and persistent and changed into a product of my environment and nurturing.

As I went through the chaos of my younger years, I was "all that changes and shifts. " My moods, my perspectives, my uncontrollable emotions and thoughts...I have described it many times...were like a tornado inside me that absolutely refused to quit. Even when it did stop briefly, back up it would storm again. Mix that with lacking deep purpose after my baseball career stopped and an enormous mess was made. So I crashed like the sea for a while...and at last found my way to writing.

But recently this dynamic shifted supremely as the bubbling up of my purpose came to me and I started to read, understand, and practice what true masculine energy essentially was. This has not just only opened up my world, but has opened up the worlds of the guys who live around me. There's an idea that has entered into my mind that has stuck with me for months now, and it's the concept of the mountain. That solidity - identifying with what doesn't change in this world. The undoubtable stableness of being absolutely grounded in your position, a mirror to life itself, empty and truly ready to express your deepest passions and purpose - which is the expression of love itself.

When a man finally begins to understand this concept, I will tell you...mountains don't just move in front of him...he becomes the mountain. Whatever occurs around him swirls and yet he is fully calm, comfortable, and remains embedded in his deepest wish. To find your purpose is a great deal more than just what you do for work - it must be a direct leader in your life and will color your relationships, your friendships, your family dynamics, and how you show up in the world. It did for me. As soon as this hit - bloom - unfold - open - closing the chasm - joy - truth - integrity - determination through anything.

Women are the same as the ocean. They shift, change, and adjust by the second. In just a moment, a calm beautiful ocean can become a sequence of rogue waves. As a man, you are there in your tiny ship wondering how on earth you're going to climb up that wave before it crests. Women are life itself. They offer, literally, what it implies to be alive. Why do you actually think they call it Mother Nature? Everything that shifts around you is moving energy, a form of energy that is uniquely feminine energy and can be accessed. But those waves for guys who do not and won't understand what it actually means to be the captain of their ship can be rocked straight out of their little boat - I cannot tell you how many times I have been tossed out of my boat or even bailed before the wave hit. But give a person a purpose, and that wave begins to appear like fun. Additionally, that wave can inspire your deepest purpose.

This is the part that's changed my life fully.

Each day I sit down and write, I am completely driven by a type of energy that's very different from anything that I have experienced before. I sit in my tiny chair outside on my porch...close my eyes, and breathe as deep down into my stomach as I can. I find that density - that solidity - that love - that emptiness. There's this sort of energy that if you focus upon it deep enough, it's almost a low frequency lull...that is exceptionally deep and potent. A wavelength that has existed far before all of us and one that will absolutelybe here forever after. I will feel it circulate through me sometimes when I am on the mat. Then, I open and observe the things that are going on around me or take the time to run through the days events - tapping into all the things that adjusted - and get impressed by all of that energy. That energy runs straight through my writing - and yet, all at the same time, I'm here, absolutely grounded in my place - living as if I was already dead.

Fear, in my heart, disappears.

There I solidly am grounded, in my deepest purpose, totally and utterly electrified by the women around me and that amazing feminine energy...creating, loving intensely and open to all doubt. It's this dynamic, the one between the male and the female - and my using both - which has taught me more than anything else. This has opened me up, changed my relations, and helped me continue to discover parts of myself that I never knew existed. Floods of people have showed up in my life and I am able to see the entire thing morphing, only to grasp that it will all change and pass...and that's perfectly O.K.




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