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24 July 2012

Make Eye Contact with People

By Tom Nikenya


At this moment you might be asking yourself if making eye contact is of any importance. Of course, it is of great importance in order to have a good relationship and also in making it grow.

Researchers have discovered that the difference between folks who are shy from those who are socially confident is that shy people do not make frequent eye contact with their conversational partners.

Confident partners don't avoid making eye contact; actually they have the tendency of looking at their spouse's face while on the other hand shy partners usually have a tendency to look down. Avoid this to turn best friend to lover.

Nearly all North Americans, especially Caucasians, have a preference of having a lot of eye contact when they are chatting with people. If a person doesn't make an eye contact when talking with people or somebody, then the North Americans have a tendency of assuming the individual is hiding the truth or something.

Does it bother you to look right into another person's eyes? If it does, then you need to look at his/her face. Generally if you look at the bridge of the nose which is close to the eyes or the eyebrow part, then you will appear as if you're looking at the eyes of the person.

If you let your vision go a little out of focus, you will find that it eases your discomfort. Therefore, keep most of your concentration on the other person whenever you are in dialogue with him/her.

Your conversation partner will assume that you are tired, not interested or you are on the lookout for some other person who you rather speak with if you glance round the room too much or if mostly you are looking at other people.

Practice with someone else or in front of a mirror in your room if you happen to have a difficulty of making eye contact with folks when you meet them.

While there are folks who are having the problem of making eye contact during a conversation, there are others who have a problem that's opposite from this. Such folks will stare too closely into other individuals' eyes when talking with them. This will often make their conversation partners to feel very uncomfortable.

To be on the receiving end of a very strong stare particularly at a really close range can be very unpleasant. There are some people who are using staring intently as a intentional tactic of intimidating others. Nevertheless, not all folks who stare sharply at others do it as an act of dominance or aggression.

This is because such folk could be quite ignorant of the impression they're creating to those they are staring at sharply. If staring intently into the eyes of other people has been your habit, from today you should know that you are causing folks to become uncomfortable.

You can make folks to feel at ease with you by smiling more often, nodding your head or by gazing at their whole face. You may also often glance away for brief moments.

Keeping eyes down and averting them when in a conversation with folk in some cultures around the world is considered to be the mannered, acceptable and desirable thing to do.

If you are talking to someone who is of different cultural practices than yours, you ought to be sensitive in noticing this difference in order to meet his/her expectations.

When you're with your partner have a habit of making eye contact with him or her in order to avoid any suspicions you are hiding something or not telling the truth.




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