It's easy to forget just how powerful our subconscious minds can be. We are often completely unaware of how our actions (or inaction) are affecting our lives. We may complain that things never work out for us, we always seem to have bad luck, or we just don't have what it takes to be successful.
Not many people realize that their subconscious self-sabotage is the true reason for their challenges. Why? Well in short, many of us actually create our own problems - and have absolutely no idea we're doing it. So how do you solve something you aren't aware of?
In order to overcome self-sabotage we need to use conscious awareness to explore our emotions and fears, and understand how they might be influencing our actions. Why? Well, once we have determined the cause of any destructive behavior, we can then take the necessary steps to prevent it from happening in the future. Simple enough isn't it? If you don't know how or why something happens you can't do anything about it can you? So what's really happening when we sabotage ourselves?
When we have something we want to accomplish, say losing weight, it's very important to want to achieve that goal both on an intellectual level and on a subconscious level. You see, when overweight people constantly fail to lose weight, or just fail to keep it off; it may be for a number of reasons. It may be because they are scared of the outcome on some subconscious level. They might feel like their fat is protecting them from the outside world; protecting them from reality. It may provide a shell for their insecurity. And suddenly, losing weight isn't a happy ever after solution anymore: it's a threat. So even though might say they want to lose weight, and firmly believe that on an intellectual level, they're subconsciously sabotaging their diets or workout plans rationalizing it by promising themselves that they'll try harder tomorrow.
However, people who self-sabotage may also think that they're simply not worthy of achieving their goals. They may fear what people would think of them if they were to accomplish the goals they've set. Therefore, the subconscious self-sabotage is ensuring a failed endeavor. When one thinks like this, they have essentially tricked themselves into believing they know what they want to accomplish. But if there is just the slightest fear or doubt about their decision to achieve their goals they will always find a way to ensure they won't succeed. Not ideal is it!? Do you feel like you're stuck? That no matter how much effort you put into it, you simply can't seem to succeed with your goals? Perhaps the description above fits you, and you may be a saboteur yourself.
Luckily, self-sabotage can be overcome by anyone. True, it's not always as simple as it sounds, as it requires one to recognize what's holding you back which, in turn, requires one to develop their conscious awareness. But, once you're aware of what you feel and what you do, the task of overcoming self-sabotage will be much easier.
If you've been struggling with a certain goal and things just don't seem to be working out for you, take a look at the setbacks that were encountered and evaluate the situation. Could any of the obstacles have been avoided by making wiser choices on your part? Are there a significantly high number of obstacles that seem to have arisen for this one particular goal. Ask yourself what you may be afraid of? What fears do you have? What uncertainties? What makes you feel uncomfortable about this goal? For what reasons would you try to hold yourself back? Can you think of anything at all?
When we take some time to understand how our subconscious mind works we can also come to realize that we are in control of our own destiny (successful or not!) With deeper understanding of our actions (and the impact they have) we can stop self-sabotage. And what happens when we become aware of our self-sabotage and can prevent it? Well, anything you want! When you remove the biggest obstacle to success (yourself) anything is possible for you.
Not many people realize that their subconscious self-sabotage is the true reason for their challenges. Why? Well in short, many of us actually create our own problems - and have absolutely no idea we're doing it. So how do you solve something you aren't aware of?
In order to overcome self-sabotage we need to use conscious awareness to explore our emotions and fears, and understand how they might be influencing our actions. Why? Well, once we have determined the cause of any destructive behavior, we can then take the necessary steps to prevent it from happening in the future. Simple enough isn't it? If you don't know how or why something happens you can't do anything about it can you? So what's really happening when we sabotage ourselves?
When we have something we want to accomplish, say losing weight, it's very important to want to achieve that goal both on an intellectual level and on a subconscious level. You see, when overweight people constantly fail to lose weight, or just fail to keep it off; it may be for a number of reasons. It may be because they are scared of the outcome on some subconscious level. They might feel like their fat is protecting them from the outside world; protecting them from reality. It may provide a shell for their insecurity. And suddenly, losing weight isn't a happy ever after solution anymore: it's a threat. So even though might say they want to lose weight, and firmly believe that on an intellectual level, they're subconsciously sabotaging their diets or workout plans rationalizing it by promising themselves that they'll try harder tomorrow.
However, people who self-sabotage may also think that they're simply not worthy of achieving their goals. They may fear what people would think of them if they were to accomplish the goals they've set. Therefore, the subconscious self-sabotage is ensuring a failed endeavor. When one thinks like this, they have essentially tricked themselves into believing they know what they want to accomplish. But if there is just the slightest fear or doubt about their decision to achieve their goals they will always find a way to ensure they won't succeed. Not ideal is it!? Do you feel like you're stuck? That no matter how much effort you put into it, you simply can't seem to succeed with your goals? Perhaps the description above fits you, and you may be a saboteur yourself.
Luckily, self-sabotage can be overcome by anyone. True, it's not always as simple as it sounds, as it requires one to recognize what's holding you back which, in turn, requires one to develop their conscious awareness. But, once you're aware of what you feel and what you do, the task of overcoming self-sabotage will be much easier.
If you've been struggling with a certain goal and things just don't seem to be working out for you, take a look at the setbacks that were encountered and evaluate the situation. Could any of the obstacles have been avoided by making wiser choices on your part? Are there a significantly high number of obstacles that seem to have arisen for this one particular goal. Ask yourself what you may be afraid of? What fears do you have? What uncertainties? What makes you feel uncomfortable about this goal? For what reasons would you try to hold yourself back? Can you think of anything at all?
When we take some time to understand how our subconscious mind works we can also come to realize that we are in control of our own destiny (successful or not!) With deeper understanding of our actions (and the impact they have) we can stop self-sabotage. And what happens when we become aware of our self-sabotage and can prevent it? Well, anything you want! When you remove the biggest obstacle to success (yourself) anything is possible for you.
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