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07 April 2013

How to Make a Girl Feel Sexy - Tips to Boost a Girl's Self-Esteem

By Michael D. Nolting


Self esteem teenage girls can be a confusing thing for many people, and in my experience it is usually girls and women who have the most issues with it so girls, this article is for you!While some self esteem activities for women may give the ideas of getting a makeovers and new hair style I'm going to try and get away because I've found out that this is not really self esteem building, but a very temporary way to give you fake confidence and is not really helpful. I'm not against dressing up and looking good (of course every girl love to look good) but the can not be your source of confidence and self esteem because it is too inconsistent and circumstantial.

Follow the steps to happiness - the three steps are as follows ad offer the very basic keys to simple happiness, and can be a good boost to self esteem. These include getting regular exercise, regular mental exercise - in other words learning new things and challenging your mind, and of course frequent social interactions. Make sure you do each of these 3 thing as often as you can because these three steps alone can lead to a very simple quality of happiness and confidence.

Helping yourself - find the best way to relax that works for you. Taking long baths, having regular massage, learning a progressive relaxation technique from CD's you can listen to anytime, walking, reading. Music can also work really well when you find music you can just drift with and let your mind float freely without worrying.Exercise - this is a great stress reducer and classes such as yoga or Pilates can be particularly good for releasing tension and helping to find a more balanced state of mind. Teenage girls often like yoga as it doesn't demand great expertise and you can dress very comfortably in loose clothing in the classes. However any form of exercise will help in a stress relief programme so if it football, dancing, running or hockey - it doesn't matter!

Creating a positive sense of self is as important to the teenage daughter as her reading the "Do not feed the lions" sign at the zoo. Disregarding either can result in losing very necessary parts of herself.How a girl evolves into her adolescent and teenage years with her self esteem intact can be defined as a tight rope walk at times. Self esteem building begins as a child and continues building upon itself one step at a time. If along the tight rope walk of self esteem she finds herself missing her steps, substantial falls and injury may occur.

When I was around 14 years old I got involved in my first serious relationship, I was treated like dirt, I was cheated on and lied to and never trusted a pretty woman I met ever since.When I reached 20 years old I realized that I was having negative responses to all women who I considered to be attractive! I realize that I pushed them away so hard because I thought they would potentially hurt my feelings just like what happened when I was 14 years old!

Self Esteem Activities For Girls - 3 Self Esteem Boosting Ideas.Follow the 3 Steps to happiness - These three steps if followed offer the very basic keys to simple happiness, and can be a good boost to self esteem. These include get regular physical exercise, mental exercise - aka always be learning and challenging your mind, and of course frequent social interactions. Make sure you get each of these 3 thing as often as you can as they alone can lead to a very simple quality of happiness and confidence. Think of people in less developed countries who are poor in a material sense, but can still lead a much happier life than most Westerners.

Have some humanism!! Stop blaming women and men just because you haven't been able to get over your own problems surrounding new/old relationships! Instead, take a step back and recognise the truth about whats really going on. Every human being in this world is just living their lives the best way they know how.

Don't blame, judge or put yourself or anyone else down just because they are trying to play the cards they were dealt. Some people are prettier, some people are more aggressive, some people are shy and some people are more poor, but we all deal with life and our everyday problems the best ways know we can.

Something that is a lot more attractive than looks however is a confident attitude. I have countless male friends who have confided in me that a womans attitude can be VERY addictive and override the fact she may not be a barbie doll look-a-like. A woman with an attractive, positive attitude will in the end receive much more attention than a model with low self esteem and the personality of a tree. This is great because a personality you can develop no matter who you are. A final mindset I'll leave you with is "if something can be done I have just as great a chance as anyone else" is a very humble way to go about life.

There is a mask that girls and women put on called the "beauty mask". This mask disguises the many flaws that lie beneath the make-up and name brand clothes. No amount of eye liner and mascara can ultimately hide what the eyes are truly saying. They are saying "I want you to believe that I am beautiful on the outside because if you really saw what I looked like underneath, you wouldn't think I was beautiful at all". Hiding behind the fabulous outfits, fancy beads, earrings, and makeup "beauty mask" is a shallow shield against the truth that screams "I want to love myself, but I don't!"The masks above are just some of the many masks that people wear. In improving self esteem, help your teenage daughter to discover and name the mask that she may be wearing. If you look close enough, you too may even discover that you wear a similar mask or have in the past. The road to self esteem building may be a journey you can take together. Like I said before, the first step is the most difficult because it calls for honesty and removal of the mask.




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