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15 July 2013

How To Improve Self-Esteem Quickly And Easily

By Marinthe Sijstermans


Your pattern of thought keeps you in this never ending circle of self sabotage and this pattern is usually a direct result from your dominating environmental surroundings.We are Victims of our Environment.I have read a few bio's of young entrepreneurs that are in there teens age years. One of the teens had a best selling book, and another a million dollar tech company. That kind of thing puts me to shame but interestingly I notice that over 90% of the teens listed showed that there family was rich, knowledgeable, or well established in there professions.On the website, Alltop, Harvard Business School has a really nice website for the education of professionals that don't actually take classes on the campus. Harvard has another website dedicated for more campus based information which states.

"Into two years of leadership practice immersed in real-world challenges. Into a diverse community of colleagues and faculty reflecting a world of talents, beliefs, and backgrounds. Into an intense period of personal and professional transformation that prepares them for challenges in any functional area-anywhere in the world."According to an article: bizjournals.There has been 10 students starting Tech Companies that are attending Harvard Business School just November last year. Harvard is also know for the reputable speakers that drop by Harvard to educate it's students about entrepreneurship.

Focus on Your Success.It is a great way of gaining some confidence if you look fondly at some things you have achieved in life. It is easy to focus on what you have not achieved in life and lose confidence. But if you focus on things that you have done over the years, can help you rediscover your talents and abilities and help improve self confidence consequently.Write Down a List of All the Things You are Proud of.You need to believe in yourself and to do so you need to look at things you have done in the past or achieved that makes you feel proud of. Recognizing your own good qualities and all the good things you have done will remind you of your abilities and inspire you to achieve more. Making a list of all the good things you have done in life and using the list when you are in low self confidence can be very therapeutic.

Some of those efforts may involve:Taking a leadership positions in another organization.Find a mentor in your niche.Hire a coach that has a track record of success in your market place.Join a mastermind group that has been meeting regular for over 1 year.Take a speech class to work on improving your presentation communication skills and overcome a common fear which will help to increase your self confidence.Also, Be mindful of the information your reading, listening to, studying. Be aware of bad news but use logic when addressing it. Try not to waste too much valuable time getting distracted surfing the web or watching videos on YouTube.

You should not feel ashamed of or insecure because of your past or current circumstances when it comes to improve self confidence. Be positive, get a good hobby, and talk yourself up to feel confident. Always try to stay focused on your positives to get rid of low self confidence and esteem.One of the questions psychologists and counselors of all kinds find themselves having to deal with rather frequently nowadays is the question on how to improve self esteem. Majority of the people who pose this question tend to be those who have come to the conclusion that most of the unhappiness in their lives is attributable to low self esteem. They therefore seek to know how they can improve their self-esteem, and hence overcome the unhappiness in their lives brought about by low self esteem -- conversely increasing the happiness in their lives.The relationship between low self esteem and unhappiness.The presumption that at least some unhappiness is brought about by low self esteem is one we have to deal with, before proceeding with this discussion on how to improve self esteem and increase one's happiness. We first of all need to deal with the question as to whether, indeed, it is true that some unhappiness is brought about by low self esteem. Whilst most people have already accepted it (that some unhappiness is brought about by low self esteem) as a statement of fact, there are those who opt to contest it. But given the fact that this is not really a discussion on the relationship between low self esteem and unhappiness, we won't dwell too much on that question.

Self esteem is broadly how we feel about ourselves. Self esteem is not something that we inherit from our parents or something that we have the moment we are born. Everybody wants a life filled with success and happiness; but this is often difficult to accomplish, especially for those who have low self-esteem. Good thing there are things we can do to improve our self esteem. But, you can't just improve your self esteem right away, it is a long and often difficult process that needs determination. Below are 7 easy steps to guide you on how to improve self esteem:Stop comparing yourself with others. Inasmuch as you are more gifted or gifted than others, there are also others who have more than what you have. If you keep on comparing, you will find yourself feeling inferior very often.

Have a realistic assessment of life's problems. So you can find appropriate solutions to your problems, you have to evaluate them realistically. For example, traffic and a bad hair day won't become problems if you don't evaluate them as such. Difficulties, problems and obstacles will always be a part of life. So you need to learn to accept the fact that life is and will never be perfect. If you are able to see things in a realistic perspective, you will be able to face problems and challenges more effectively.

Be in a social circle of people who makes you feel significant and happy. If you form friendships with people who are pessimistic and controlling, you are likely going to feel bad about yourself most of the time. On the other hand, being in the company of people who listens to you, encourages and accepts you, you are sure to be on your way to a healthier level of self esteem.Know which things actually trigger low self-esteem. Take note of what your triggers are and try to avoid them or better yet, learn ways to better cope with them. If your appearance is causing you to feel bad about yourself, then work on improving it--exercise, eat well and dress sharply.

Follow your fashion: you are original and that means that your way is customized only for you. In such a case, you are the master of your own game. It is thus easy for you to win in such a situation no matter the challenges. So, avoid 'copy and pasting' other peoples ideas.Know your niche. Identify the thing that you do best and be sure to impress at all times. You are better placed knowing your area of specialty than trying to do things that do not fit into your style of life. You are at home in your own niche thus an increased self-confidence.

Do something! You will not develop high self-esteem if you sit on the sidelines and back away from obstacles. Taking action will make you feel better about yourself, regardless if you succeed or fail. If you let your fear and anxiety hold you back from taking action, you will end up feeling frustrated, sad and discontented with yourself.

Be as knowledgeable as possible. Take the time to learn a number of things that directly affect your life like work or school-related things and several others. It will help you know what to say during conversations and thus improve your confidence greatly.Love yourself. Go out have fun and feel good all the time there is the chance for it. Loving yourself increases self-confidence in the long run.Take time to focus fully on yourself and try as much as you can to build something positive. They say that Rome was not build in a day and in the same way, there is the need to be patient as you build yourself. The raw materials for this self-confidence building project include: attitude, heart, courage and dedication, among other things that increase your focus towards this important life undertaking.




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